I’ve done a lot of changing in the last few years. I’ve changed more than anyone else my friends know – and since we’re mostly in the world of personal development, that’s saying something!
I used to be painfully shy, massively stressed, in the wrong job and uncomfortably single. Now I’m married, sociable, healthy and doing the work it seems I was born to do, helping intelligent people who’ve lost their mojo to get back to being brilliant.
The truth is that all that change wasn’t easy.
But it seems I’ve developed an effective way of doing difficult things, and so I thought I’d share five of my best tips.
- Get moving. The best way to move towards any change is to actually move! Literally, move: get off your behind and walk, run, swim or cycle every day. Thinking about moving doesn’t count – your brain really can tell the difference, and the metaphor of movement generalises to other areas of your life.
- Don’t stress about goal-setting or visualising. Yes, its good to know where you’re going. But if dreaming big dreams doesn’t come naturally to you, don’t beat yourself up about it. I spent years stressing because I “couldn’t visualise”, I didn’t seem to know what I wanted, or if I did know I couldn’t tell anyone else. Nowadays I just get on with things.
- Take small, practical steps. This time, the steps might be metaphorical! What’s the smallest thing you can do in pursuit of the change you would like? Do that.
- Use the power of habit. Routine is one of my most powerful ways to get difficult things done. I’ve used this one for a very long time – back in the day, when I was a volunteer salesperson for a certain far-left paper, I always did my weekly accounting and sent off the money before my tea on a Friday. Sometimes tea ended up being very late, but the money was always in the post.
- Ask for help when you need it. This used to be really tough for me – after all, I was very shy and I hated talking about myself. I’m still working on this one. But asking for help isn’t all about you, you know: most people get a kick out of being asked. So start making some polite requests and see what happens!
What are your tips for doing difficult things? Please share them in the comments area below.
And feel free to ask for my help 🙂