If you were to have a “breakthrough session”, what kind of “breakthrough” would yours be?

My friend James Tripp and I were talking yesterday about how various coaches and therapists offer “breakthrough sessions” – and I must have subconsciously asked myself: “What kind of breakthrough?” because a personal story sprang to mind.

(James pointed out that this was an example of how Clean Language enthusiasts typically find themselves coaching themselves using the questions in their own thoughts, without even noticing it. It’s a great side-effect of using this coaching approach.)

When I was about nine years old, an architect friend of my parents came to dinner. While they ate, and chatted (about property, among many other things) the architect noticed that the house was configured in such a way that it would be relatively easy to create an extra bedroom.

My parents were sceptical but curious.

The architect nipped home to fetch a hammer and chisel. Then, watched by my dad, he knocked out a couple of bricks in a wall.

They peered through at a perfectly room-sized space!

That was the breakthrough.

They didn’t go on to smash the whole wall down – there were young children in the house and it might not have been safe.

Months later, the space became a bedroom. But there were all kinds of unpredictable dramas on the way.  For example, the architect would have had no idea that one of the main roof joists was held up by an ancient tin of baked beans! Nor could he foresee the storm that blew off the tarpaulin during the building work and sent a river of rainwater down the stairs.

And then it was my bedroom, the first I hadn’t had to share… and now, that same space is my parents’ bedroom… and one day it will belong to some other family.

What kind of breakthrough would your breakthrough be?

    2 replies to "Breakthrough Sessions"

    • Jack Austin

      Like the post.

      Watching old video of Bandler from the early .90’s the other day, Richard made the point that fiddling around with people’s submodalities entailed consequences that might be unforeseen by inexperienced or poor practitioners. Seems that things are all connected and some strategies that rely on one set of submodalities are related to another. When this particular tin of baked beans gets removed or obsoleted, some folks don’t think about the “joists” or bearing beams that rely on the same construct. Whoopsee! Didn’t think about your house fallin’ down milady……What does this have to do with the price of tea in China? Clean language is not an external fiddling with the internal structures. It is a tool of revealing which allows for the neuronal rewiring to occur by internally driven aha’s of new awareness. The difference between Organic and Mechanic.
      Nice cautionary tale of discovery, progressive change and persistence.


    • Judy

      Thanks Jack, glad you like the post.

      Interesting to hear Bandler’s views – or at least, his views then. It seems as if a fair few NLP enthusiasts would seek to change everything in a single session: I’ve certainly tried to do that for myself in the past.

      And of course one short session might be “the difference that makes the difference”, the moment of knocking through the wall. But most likely the “real” change comes as the result of a whole bunch of related processes and circumstances back in the “real world”.

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