Frame control – the power of context

Great influencers have long recognised the power of setting the context of any conversation. For example, pick-up artists discuss “frame control” and assert that “In an interaction between two people, whoever has the stronger frame/reality wins”. Of course, I don’t accept their win-lose frame! Influential interactions can be, and in my opinion should be, win-win, especially…

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Downhill all the way

I was lucky enough to have a fabulously smooth journey just before Christmas. It was “downhill all the way” from North Yorkshire to London, in a van filled with my husband’s and stepson’s possessions as they finally moved their stuff in with me, six months after our wedding. If you’re based in the UK you’ll…

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What is it about metaphor?

In The Master and His Emissary, Iain McGilchrist explores the relationship between the right and left hemispheres of the brain. And it’s no accident that he’s used a powerful metaphor as the title of his book. I’m still less than halfway through his book (after hearing McGilchrist speak at the NLP Conference last month) but…

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The 2 Lazy Jedi questions and the NLP Meta Model

If you’re familiar with NLP before you encounter the 2 Lazy Jedi questions (which are based on David Grove’s Clean Language) you might wonder about the relationship between these questions and an NLP questioning system, the Meta Model. The two systems are similar in a couple of ways: that they are questioning systems, for example,…

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Why use the 2 Lazy Jedi questions?

Want to easily, ethically and intelligently influence any human being – in any area of your life? Then get the 2 Lazy Jedi questions on the tip of your tongue. These questions help you to find out what someone really thinks and feels – while inherently developing and deepening the relationship between you. And one of the…

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